Up in the wee hours of the morning- with nothing to do- I surf the 'net as usual. Someone on my Facebook page posted a YouTube link that stated “Black women are easy.” Sparking my interest, I skedaddled on over to see what kind of foolishness was poppin’ off this time. Not easily offended, I wanted to check it out before I formed an opinion. I hit the link and there he was: a simple looking white dude named “Whitey McWhite Guy” who was conducting a “survey.” Basically, he’d walk around town asking black women for their phone numbers, and with no hesitation, he’d get it upon demand. At first, I was taken aback. I then wondered was this “survey” real, or were they stage props for his experiment. Either way, I began to wonder: Is there any validity to this claim? Why are we so docile & agreeable when dealing with other races, especially white folks?
Sistas are EASY!!??? That’s the last thing I’ll hear from a Black man. I’m told we are bossy, argumentative, attitudinal, & down right egregious. I’ve heard we make’em “work too hard.” Is this true? Take that same Sista & hook her up with a white dude, and where does all the “attitude” go? Many conversations I’ve had with my Sistas, and when the topic of dating comes up, she has a long, laundry list of criteria that the brothers must meet. Educated, tall, good-looking, financially established, sex-machine, hung like “Buck the Wonder Slave”, no kids, God fearing, mansion, car & yacht owner, entrepreneur, etc. Ask her about dating a white man (or any other race) and all he has to be is a GOOD man. WHAT!!??? Yep. She may request that he has some coins, but, that’s about it. Some of these white boys come at us talking crazy, looking crazy, acting crazy, being crazy, but we accept that behavior because for some reason, we are still honored that white folks are “showing us love”. A Black man comes with the same approach, and he’s getting cussed out! Believe that.
However, this type of behavior & thinking isn’t limited to the Black woman, only. Our brothers have been participating in the same foolery as well. Just the same, when dating a Black woman, she must be able to cook, a certain complexion, weight, look, must be educated, employed, has own apartment, no kids, small waist, big butt, big breasts, nympho, love his mama, etc. Replace her with a white woman, and all she has to be is a “good woman”. She doesn’t have to have anything on her resume but her whiteness, and it’s all good from there on out. It reminds me of a story my dad would often tell me. He was a young boy growing up in the south. And one day- while sitting on the porch with his dad- his dad’s buddy dropped by to say hello. As the two were conversing, the friend mentioned to my granddad that he had a new girlfriend: and she’s WHITE. My granddad asked, “Is she pretty?” His friend replied, “I told you she was WHITE!” Done.
Make no mistake- although it’s not for me- I’m not against interracial dating. Two people meet & fall in love is a beautiful thing. However, let the union be genuine. If you truly love her, let it be because of who she is, not because of who I’m not. Be fair to yourself and your cultural counterparts. Level the playing field by giving the same opportunities to the brother man, that you would the “other man.” By no means am I asking you to allow yourself to be disrespected. At the same time, it is foolish to accept from one, what you would condemn from another.
But maybe I’m wrong. Help me out, holla back …
